Strange choice of words. :/
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rygD
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Yeah, I am that weirdo that waits for crickets and such to move away before cutting where they are while mowing grass. Since I use a gasoline mower I am undecided on which is worse, sitting there burning fuel or risking chopping them up. At least the sound and vibrations tell them I am coming, so they know to get the hell out of there.
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Because knowledge leads to understanding, or the dark side or something.
rygD
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Still fresh, damnit!
I wonder if more people with these imaginary friends as adults are GQ than the norm, assuming the mismatch between my eyes' and my ears' appreciation of gender is valid in this instance (it isn't always - I'm aware of one radio reporter who sounds very masculine appearing to be perfectly feminine on tv).
FaeMinx
Rainbow Liberation Instigation
Then you have a perfect opportunity to start working for yourself. Even if it's just washing cars or baking cookies / selling hot dogs. Don't wait for opportunities to come your way... Make them yourself!
rygD
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That kinda came out of nowhere.
DrHAX
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Kind've just jumped in?
rygD
Nihilistic Mystic
Yeah, everything was going along smoothly, then, BOOM, there it was, all unexpectedly.
Poor thing.Long-term loneliness sucks.
You either get depressed, cynical, destructive or delusional.
Since I decided to be less cynical, I get more depressed and it's no fun but it is said, that cynicism would scare away the wrong people if they existed.
Being in open spaces a lot for a few years and making music in parks sometimes didn't change anything when it comes to the lack of offline contacts.
You either get depressed, cynical, destructive or delusional.
Since I decided to be less cynical, I get more depressed and it's no fun but it is said, that cynicism would scare away the wrong people if they existed.
Being in open spaces a lot for a few years and making music in parks sometimes didn't change anything when it comes to the lack of offline contacts.
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Caine
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I am really sorry to hear you are suffering from this. Unfortunately I know exactly what you are talking about.
Worst part is that even when you know what you should do about it, the tendency to do exactly the opposite is quite strong.
@Klumpen: Go to the animal shelter, get a dog. It gives you loyality, company, and is a great way to break the ice to talk to people with other dogs. Not sure if in your country they allow you to take care of one for a short period. Check if you can bring it back if it doesnt work out.
If you are too depressed, you will not be able to care for a dog (i.e. go daily twice for a walk to poo and pee...). A cat is more independant (litterbox, or they just find a place outside). If you lack confidence to get to an animal shelter, get some ants outside and make a terrarium to have them in. Add some berries, leaves, sugar. If they escape, get new ones. If that is too hard, get a tamagochi, there is lots of old windows95 binaries on the net.
Eat lettuce. It will make you happy. Fake a smile, sustain it for a few minutes. It will induce the same happy chemical components in your brain. Note that the loneliness is not only mental, but also physical... there must be a lack of the 70 or so minerals we need.
People go on hollidays to eat different food with different mineral composition...
Back to the lettuce: buy shoarma meat, some pita bread and a lettuce. Wash and slice the lettuce in long slices. Wet the pita bread, and warm it in the oven. Fry the meat. Crush some garlic into mayonaise... you are done with all you need for a shoarma. Add a beer or other drink to your liking. Watch a movie from when you were younger, it will transport you into that mindset of yesteryear...
If you are too depressed, you will not be able to care for a dog (i.e. go daily twice for a walk to poo and pee...). A cat is more independant (litterbox, or they just find a place outside). If you lack confidence to get to an animal shelter, get some ants outside and make a terrarium to have them in. Add some berries, leaves, sugar. If they escape, get new ones. If that is too hard, get a tamagochi, there is lots of old windows95 binaries on the net.
Eat lettuce. It will make you happy. Fake a smile, sustain it for a few minutes. It will induce the same happy chemical components in your brain. Note that the loneliness is not only mental, but also physical... there must be a lack of the 70 or so minerals we need.
People go on hollidays to eat different food with different mineral composition...
Back to the lettuce: buy shoarma meat, some pita bread and a lettuce. Wash and slice the lettuce in long slices. Wet the pita bread, and warm it in the oven. Fry the meat. Crush some garlic into mayonaise... you are done with all you need for a shoarma. Add a beer or other drink to your liking. Watch a movie from when you were younger, it will transport you into that mindset of yesteryear...
DrHAX
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I know how that goes, granted me meeting people is highly difficult due to a speech impediment I have. So needless to say I feel locked in my head. It's how I came to start writing. If creativity helps you try to vent your feelings into some other medium.
It helped me zoning out into the works I am writing. I'm not sure if this will help you, but even if you want to talk about it I'm willing to chat. Sometimes just even having some body to say " this sucks" to helps.
Granted I'm still cynical, but it wasn't just the loneliness. Life is hard, I wish there was a cheat code to turn down the difficulty a bit.
FaeMinx
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Everyone here is giving good advice.
When I give my advice on this subject - people don't want to hear it. Because it is hard, very hard.... and perhaps almost impossible for human beings (I don't know... all I can say is I have achieved it.... but the jury is out on if I actually qualify as a human being)
I can't tell you how to achieve all these points... it is a personal journey for each:
1: Unravel your personal motivations. Identify where you have been conditioned (where have you adopted beliefs from outside sources - parents, peers, media, school, 'secret schools', etc). Anything that didn't come purely from you, no matter how logical or sensible it seems... mark it down as 'suspect' and in all likelihood 'BS'... you will have to go through extensive introspection and experimentation to extract whatever truth (if any) there is in these beliefs.
2: Detach yourself from 'outcome'... from now on, the 'results' are not what you are aiming for... from now on the results do not matter.... the only thing that concerns you is what you put in... i.e. Your own quality, your motivation, your intention.... it must be on the quality of your contribution.... not on what you are trying to make happen or achieve (This is hard for humans to grasp).
3: Detach yourself from your own identity... practice experiencing yourself as a transient expression - that you are no greater or less than any other expression... come to know yourself as the being that expresses itself, not the expression. (In any interaction, when you remember, step outside yourself and simply observe how you behave and think... without identifying with either... most humans can't do this).
4: Nourish your form - as you would a beloved pet or creature or child for which you are a custodian... give it what it needs.... YOU in reality have no needs, but the form you have taken does have needs.... so determine what it needs and give it that.... not what it 'wants'... what your form (body, ego) wants is often not a real need but a gratification... the need for gratification coming from a conditioned dysfunctional sense of self that only provides temporary diminishing relief and leaves one with an amplified need for gratification after the temporary effects have worn off. ... In other words - addiction (which can take any form). Keep in mind that the entire human economy / social system is dependent on addictive gratification - co-dependant relationship especially... which the vast majority of human beings consider as 'normal'.
5: Put into your life more and more of what makes you feel 'light' and 'free'... cut out anything that brings you down, that makes you feel 'heavy' or 'restricted'.
6: Forget about making friends or getting into relationship... Your job is to become the best friend you've never had to yourself... and through hard work and dedication... enter into loving relationship with yourself.... You are both the egoic form, and the formless beingness... This is your great task, your number one priority... your constant meditation... your ultimate purpose.
Remember... focus not on the results, but on the quality of what you put in.
After some significant time working on this 'true' relationship, you will forget what loneliness feels like.
I don't get along with dogs at all (they're mostly like the exact opposite of me), only have a 29.5m² apartment and don't eat animal-products, so your options don't work. One of the reasons why I changed my diet was, that it was worse before and at least my body is working way more properly for a few years now. It's all just workarounds though.
The reasons aren't any of this, I just feel very misplaced in the stressful overcrowded metropolis where I have to live since you seldomly get rest and peace (not even at night in your own space) and people here are always alienated by me and I am by them, it's mostly better when I'm elsewhere but I don't have options to leave here yet since I'm very much tied to the job I got/made against all odds. Working on becoming independend without much money takes a lot of effort but I'm trying anyway.
I don't think that penguins could be happy in a desert either.
Yeah, it's music for me and since it's possible to do it together with others, I even do so too.
Tried that, people never even believe the shit happening in my life from the first year on up until now and that's just when trying it with the soft stuff. Well, since straight white males are generally "privileged", nothing of it can be true. Wouldn't help with the current situation anyway.
At least you still got your girlfriend, at least I hope so.
No chance for me there though since girls here always tell me I'm way too small. Of course it's superficial bollocks but can't do anything about it, already always working on improving myself in every way possible (body, art, education) but doesn't matter.
I can live alone, still would be nice to have someone.
Yep, that's what I often said too and I wouldn't still be alive without trying to achieve most of those points, not sure if getting even more detached from my form is a good idea though since mad egocentric sociopaths are often born like that.
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DrHAX
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You have no idea, how much of that I can relate too. Seriously, I grew up i n St.Paul MN, a cess pool of similar thinking where equality is just a different word for " I want to put the jack boot against your throat." Its a corrupt region of self delusions, and people who are so blind to the world around them.
I was mugged by a gang , assaulted, punished by the school system for it because of me being a white male. I was dragged out of a classroom when they were talking about scholarships because it didn't apply to me, and told I'd never get anything or go anywhere in life.
I can recognize events of crime from a mile away. Tell whose what and where, and people don't see it. I saw it every day. Know the difference between a 44 mag and a 9mm from three blocks away? I do.
Women where I grew up are radical feminists. One of them bashed a friend of mine with a rock because he had the nerve to call her cute. She was calling him the n word and everything. Drew blood, it was great. She got nothing done to her.
Most people wouldn't believe the crap that's happened to me. If I never made it out of st.Paul, well life would have been a bit darker.
If you want to talk, trust me, I know bad sh-stuff happens in the world.
There is vegan meat... and it tastes great...
https://www.devegetarischeslager.nl/producten/informatie-over/kip-shoarma
And maybe you get some strength knowing you are not of this world: http://www.gotquestions.org/not-of-this-world.html
@DrHAX Netherlands looks like a safe haven compared to what you are describing. Of course, we have the same problems, but not to that extreme.
For example, we have muslim ghetto's. And the one time I went eating to a turkish restaurant with some colleagues, was the day that police was doing routine checks (paperwork, make sure all lights worked on the car, basic things). For me it was this one time, but boy, living there must piss you off if they control that much (of course, the amount of bad lights and driving without correct papers is higher in that neighborhood, so it is only logical).
Also, the high school I was in, was instructed a quotum of children to become smiths, you know, bending metals, soldering, etc. After my parents were called to speak to the teacher, for something ANOTHER kid had done, I was pulled, and put into a better school. And so I went into computer sciences.
Also, on TV, the commercials are 95% white people, while here we have a share of non-white Dutch: Caribbean, Indonesian, Suriname, you know, (ex-)colonies... 20 years ago, they were in the commercials (around 25%, I counted) ... now, you see less non-white in commercials. Play white-brown-black! Watch the commercials. Each new person on screen is being called by their skin color. What is your countries percentage of skintones during prime-time commercials?
Caine
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No, there is not... by definition. That is a meat replacement which, for some weird reason, imitates the look of meat.
I'm often irritated by such choices of names too. There's no need anyway, I know omnis who love to eat (and one actually prefers) seitan burgers for example and the same (although less often) applies to stuff made out of soy-filament. Just calling a spade a spade.
I wouldn't even call it meat replacement, it's mostly just formed protein, like sausage or patties which don't look like natural meat anyway regardless of whether it comes from animals or elsewhere.
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