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  1. rSl

    rSl i'm not tired. you're tired.

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    can't sleep here too, 2 guarana tablets keeping me kinda' awake. damn' heat!
     
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  2. Cerbera

    Cerbera Ecnes

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    Just recently for me my lack of sleep has been due to falling down the rabbithole that is YouTube and losing track of time. Which beats the usual reasons of my brain overanalysing everything + having to deal with intrusive thoughts.
     
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  3. JDTAY

    JDTAY Half Pepperoni, All Cheese

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    Guys, it's time for me to get serious for a second. *serious face*

    I'm not sure if I've mentioned this before, but my mother died of breast cancer in 2001. It's relevant, because a week or two ago a doctor found something in my twin sister's chest, and today she went in for a biopsy on it. She goes in to hear the results on Monday.

    My feelings on this are mixed. I mean, it sucks, but it's not happening to me, so I don't think I have a right to feel any worse than my sister does about it. She seems to be taking it pretty well.
     
  4. Elw3

    Elw3 ƐʍlƎ

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    Dont worry before hearing the test results.
    After that you may panic as you want.
     
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  5. Cerbera

    Cerbera Ecnes

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    If you feel sad about something,you feel sad about it. There's no shame in that.
     
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  6. rygD

    rygD Nihilistic Mystic

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    I had to take sleeping pills last night. Still woke up later than I wanted. My sleep is really messed up and it messes everything else up.
     
  7. FaeMinx

    FaeMinx Rainbow Liberation Instigation

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    We all have the right to feel whatever it is we feel. We should learn to be sensitive and accepting of what it is we feel. Suppressing it, or bullshitting ourselves and others about how we feel is only going to lead to misunderstanding, assumption and conflict (with others and conflict with ourselves).

    No. Accept what you feel. Be in touch with yourself.

    But what you do with those feelings? Now that is where you must develop responsibility, discernment, and consideration.

    It is NOT ok to act on your feelings just because you feel a certain way. If you have intense feelings of any kind, it is better to take yourself somewhere safe to be alone and meditate on it.
    Engaging with people must be on mutual ground, and if you wish to avoid misunderstanding / resentment, you must develop a sense of empathy - and that is being so in touch with your own feelings that you can find a place of peace in the centre of yourself, and from there... With practice, you can become sensitive to the feelings of others.... The often unspoken truth of them, which so many people avoid expressing... Or only express in a round-about way.

    Also... Avoid justifying yourself. It isn't about being right... It's about developing your sensitivity, and that is a personal matter.
    Often times you must 'allow' people to be 'wrong' (from your perspective)... Every person has their own process, and quite often, if you interfere in any way you can procrastinate their development and make the issues worse... Even making yourself part of the problem. Just mind your own sensitivity, and let people be.

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  8. Klumpen

    Klumpen Run away! Run away!

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    Didn't know where to share this pic, but I had to:
    o7pl0nD.jpg
     
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  9. JDTAY

    JDTAY Half Pepperoni, All Cheese

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    Elw3 was right, I shouldn't have worried. My sister said the test came back negative. I'm told negative is the good one.
     
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  10. Elw3

    Elw3 ƐʍlƎ

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    I am always.
     
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  11. Cerbera

    Cerbera Ecnes

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  12. Cerbera

    Cerbera Ecnes

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    I've been thinking about things that I would tell my younger self if I ever got the chance. One of them was, be yourself. Back when I was younger I used to pretend to like things that I actually didn't and so on, because I thought that doing so would make people like me (plot twist: they didn't). I was also worried about the mask slipping and people seeing what I was really like, which caused me a fair bit of anxiety.
    Nowadays what you see is what you get, I like what I like and act according to my nature. If people don't like that then that's their problem, I can honestly say that I'm the happiest I've ever been due to this new mindset + a few other bits and bobs.
     
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  13. FBnil

    FBnil Ready to Champion the Pyra to the World...

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    You monster!

    on that other topic: Keeping up appearances is, indeed tiering. It takes a few of your brain CPU cycles to, say, formulate a response how you would like your pretend-persona to respond. However, your facial and body expression react as you really would. And that creates a noticeable discrepancy. Cue's that the other person picks up as "off"/"strange"/"uncomfortable", fake even.
     
  14. Cerbera

    Cerbera Ecnes

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    I wouldn't worry it's very improbable that I'd ever actually do it. I was originally going to say impossible, but if I'm forced to watch any more First Dates compilation videos on YouTube then I may be forced to take action.
     
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  15. Cerbera

    Cerbera Ecnes

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    It's been a weird week for dreams in my household.

    1: I was shopping in a supermarket where for some reason everyone was wearing a mask.
    2: I won a fairground game and got to pick a prize, the prizes were, a sex robot, Hatsune Miku, or Dahlia. I picked the sex robot Dahlia.
    3: I was in the middle of an IT lesson back at the college I attended, there were a few other people there, but the only two that I recognised was a woman that looked strikingly like my ex-gf and a friend I had at the time. The woman kept dropping things and bending over to pick them up, I remember turning to my friend and saying "I wish she would stop doing that I'm trying to learn".
    4: Dahlia had a dream about a giant fidget spinner.
     
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  16. Cerbera

    Cerbera Ecnes

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    I'm not crying, you're crying. :'(
     
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  18. ClockworkCoder

    ClockworkCoder Chaotic Neutral

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    While my wife is away for a while I'm reminded of how much time is taken up with basic things like cleaning, washing, cooking, etc, etc.

    I thought I'd be highly motivated to get stuff done - work on projects, clear away all the clutter - but...

    What "clearing away the clutter" apparently has become is me sitting here, and instead of getting it up and putting it in the bin, I decided to fold it into a paper aeroplane and attempt "flying" it in to the recycling bin. Needless to say I missed (the recycling bin is in another room, through a closed door).

    And instead of me now getting up to retrieve it, I'm typing this post. Procrastinating.

    I hope ED's faring better.
     
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  19. TeDaDeS

    TeDaDeS Very Active Member

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    If you're busy you keep busy, if you procrastinate you'll procrastinate.
    Usually chores are over before I know, just start and they'll be done.
    The only thing I dislike about chores like yours it that they feel pointless when not done also for others, I don't care and so who do it do them for. And usually you do them the next day again anyway (the procrastination trap).

    So ED is really busy, so he keeps all that stuff up looks like.
     
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  20. ClockworkCoder

    ClockworkCoder Chaotic Neutral

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    Deep. I do both quite well.

    Cooking for one sucks. Ironing doubly so.
     
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