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[JDTAY]

A strange topic has been on my mind. I posted that one past life description on Sunday, where the dude said he found out after he died that there was no sex in the afterlife, and it made him come back to Earth.

There's not too much info on this topic, but what's there is disheartening. I've seen a few NDEs claim the same thing, that sex happens in the material world only. Even the Bible has a passage about this, IIRC. Something like men and women will no longer be given to each other, they will live as children do.

A few NDEs mention that there is something they do that's better than sex, but for some reason my brain doesn't light up for "better than sex" as much as it does for just "sex".

 

[Djoga'Ro]

Let's say, on a lower plain of existence, which we all've been through, eating shit was da best. Now we're here, have no urge to do so and don't miss it, do we? (Yes, some sorts of porn or rather the fact of them being produced and probably consumed suggest, that there are some, who are into shit. But that's besides the point.)

 

[Null]

A few NDEs mention that there is something they do that's better than sex

Cake.

 

[levi]

But the cake is a lie?

 

[Null]

 

[λ the β-Redex Reducer]

Sex is boring anyway.

 

[Djoga'Ro]

You've got room for improvement then, in the way you do it or the partners you do it with.

 

[JDTAY]

Sex is boring anyway.

This is the most millennial post ever. I recall you saying that you chose the Unix epoch for your profile birthday. Just what is your real age?

I only got three good years of masturbation in before high speed internet porn destroyed every guy's sexuality, so I'm assuming maybe you're at least three years younger than me.

I remember orgasms being the best thing ever, so it always surprises me when younger guys say they don't even orgasm every time they have sex.

 

[Null]

Sex is boring anyway.

 

[λ the β-Redex Reducer]

I only got three good years of masturbation in before high speed internet porn destroyed every guy's sexuality, so I'm assuming maybe you're at least three years younger than me.

I did not watch porn at all so you're off the mark in your reasoning. However if you are 33 then you did gamble correctly in that I am at least 3 years younger than you are.

I remember orgasms being the best thing ever, so it always surprises me when younger guys say they don't even orgasm every time they have sex.

My orgasms used to be very painful. I did whatever I could to avoid them but got them forced onto me by wet dreams. I'm not sure why my orgasms were as painful as they were. However over time they became less painful and now they do not hurt at all anymore and feel pretty decent.
Now that I'm over my fear of orgasms I can get an orgasm whenever I want without porn, masturbating, or sex. Maybe I have so much control over it because I never watched porn growing up. Either way since they only feel decent I'm still not a huge fan of orgasms.

I do not think that it's weird to not be a huge fan of sex. It's just like how some people do not like coconut water in that it's a bit unusual but everyone has some unusual taste in something. The average guy does not exist.

 

[Djoga'Ro]

I do not think that it's weird to not be a huge fan of sex.

I'd call it unusual. Weird is, how you get to perceive orgasms. The rest that follows is understandable then.

 

[JDTAY]

It occurs to me that I may have violated some rules of the Caring Corner with my post about Lambda's libido.

I've always wondered just what happened to male sex drive though, especially since I haven't had a full one since 2004. Porn seemed like a plausible explanation to me when Gary Wilson proposed it about a decade ago. I do have to think though, if it is the porn, shouldn't I have been able to fix it by now?

I thought it might be the meds too, but there were times I took Zoloft in high school, and it didn't affect my drive at all. It wasn't until after I dropped out that everything went south.

 

[Djoga'Ro]

I took antidepressants occasionally. One - don't remember which - made me sexually more, another less sensitive. I hated that.

 

[Null]

if it is the porn, shouldn't I have been able to fix it by now?

It happens to everyone eventually. It's called getting old.

 

[JDTAY]

Been thinking more about the afterlife. They say there's a boundary you have to cross that you can't go back from. Since there's no real way of knowing what's beyond the boundary until you cross it, I guess maybe we're here on Earth to build up enough faith or courage to cross it. I can't deny the possibility that it's a trap, but being trapped maybe beats being stuck in-between forever.

This one NDE did say the reason Heaven is hidden from most of us is that most of us aren't strong enough to resist suicide when offered a glimpse of Heaven. I gotta think there's more to it than just that though. Especially since this one NDE guy said the world wouldn't be populated by humans forever anyway. That could be explained by this other NDE guy though, who said humans would change into something unrecognizable as human, the same way our evolutionary ancestors wouldn't recognize us.

 

[Null]

They say there's a boundary you have to cross that you can't go back from. Since there's no real way of knowing what's beyond the boundary until you cross it, I guess maybe we're here on Earth to build up enough faith or courage to cross it. I can't deny the possibility that it's a trap, but being trapped maybe beats being stuck in-between forever.

 

[Null]

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[JDTAY]

I was reading one of my favorite NDE style stories the other day when I noticed a detail I hadn't noticed before.

Mark STE 7310NDE

Over 3000 experiences - Out of Body Experience (OBE) spiritually transformative events (STE), dreams, waking visions, prebirth memories, pre-existence, consciousness studies, extensive information and research. People share their stories and learn more about different states of consciousness...

www.oberf.org

I like this one because it confirms something I suspected, no punishment for suicide. The guy who had it used to be active on the NDE subreddit and posted a more detailed version of it there, but I haven't been bothered to look it up again lately. Most people were skeptical anyway, since he didn't have a life-threatening event. That one detail though, right at the end he mentions there are experiences in the physical plane that can't be had in the ethereal plane. I wonder if he's just referring to pain, or if this is another one that claims that there's no sex or food in the afterlife. I've seen that claim a few times before, and it's one of the few things about death that frightens me.

Edit: Yeah, he also mentions one of the reasons he chose to come back was to have sex, so I guess this is one of those.

 

[Null]

that claims that there's no sex or food in the afterlife.

Not even Angel Cake?

 

[JDTAY]

I found the extended version of Mark's STE on Reddit.

https://www.reddit.com/r/NDE/comments/eqrmw3/my_neardeath_experience_16_years_ago/

He doesn't elaborate on the absence of sex in the afterlife, but he does make, in the comments, a comparison between this life and porn.

A common theme from people who had an NDE, they will say something like, "there are no words to describe it." Even more than that, it's like, "using words to describe this amazing experience will never be satisfactory, because words are so flat and insufficient."

Everything about physical reality is a watered-down version.

It's like watching sex videos all your life, and then equating watching videos to actually the having of sex.

Someone asks "are you a virgin?" And you're like, "no, I've had sex many times!"

Then after 50 years of watching porn and thinking that is sex, you finally actually have sex with another person, and you realize..... "oh, THIS is sex!! That other thing was only a representation of the truth."

So you return from an NDE and someone says "oh, you were just hallucinating!"

It's like, "OK buddy, keep watching your pornos if that's what floats your boat... But that's not sufficient for me anymore."