Exophase said:
Kalisiin said:
@Exophase - have I not already said I am speaking not for me...but for others who may be being made to feel bad, because they are not in a position to donate? but you don't read.
You're speaking for a mindset you assume exists with no evidence of such. It's very unlikely that anyone agrees with you (based on the responses so far, and that I've never seen anyone respond like this to a contest before), and without evidence your claims are void. It's also very rude to tell me I'm not reading just because I'm not agreeing with the things you've said. I've read everything you've typed. Bottom line, you can't speak on behalf of other people without first knowing factually what those people think and feel about the matter at hand.
Lack of evidence aside, what you're ultimately failing to provide is a logical rationalization for the emotional conclusions you're giving here. This is not going to convince anyone that these conclusions deserve to be acted upon, much less that anyone else is drawing them.
Kalisiin said:
Maybe other people just wouldn't speak up. Again, I find it very hard to believe that people in the contest do not look down on those who don't contribute to the prize pool.
You find it hard to believe because you're being paranoid and likely have serious misconceptions regarding how other people think. I'm sorry to say these blunt and harsh things; I know that I'm just appearing condescending in saying this, and I really don't pretend to be a psychologist because I'm nothing of the sort. But I think that you hold these delusions on your sleeve, plain for anyone to see. I really hope this becomes more apparent to you in time because I can see that these things are not making you a happy person and are obstructing your ability to constructively communicate with other people.
Kalisiin said:
Lastly, I still maintain I have the right to decide for myself - who is making what is useful to me...and to contribute (or not) as I see fit...to WHOM I see fit.
Absolutely, and no one is taking that away from you. No one has ever intended such a thing, and it's unfair of you to insist this without evidence of such intentions.
Kalisiin said:
So go ahead and be the Gestapo and censor my posts. By all means. Your actions would thus only serve to prove me even more correct.
I don't agree with post censoring either, and I really dislike post deletion. But that was only one (non-moderator's) suggestion, you don't know that any one capable is going to follow through with that. Be all of that as it may, what you said really makes no sense - whether or not you end up being censored has absolutely nothing to do with the validity of what you're saying. This is a completely illogical conclusion. A rational person will be able to easily derive the real reason as to these posts would be deleted, and it's because they're contrary to the purpose of the thread and distracting from a thread that serves a pretty concrete and practical purpose. Saying that the post deletions would prove you correct is just further muddying the stance that you're coming forth with.
You're still failing to see my point.
By promoting a contest like this...you are doing the following, whether or not you intend to:
A - Possibly taking people OFF other projects they may be working on, and are wanted...in order to compete for MONEY. No one is going to keep developing a free something if they can instead get MONEY.
B - By posting amounts and who gave it...it puts pressure on others (whether or not this was intended is beside the point.) I might have considered donating, say, ten bucks to something like this...but...that would have made me look like a cheap-ass, since everyone else is donating fifty and more. Seriously...what would it look like if I had donated ten bucks...and everyone else is giving fifty? Tell me people wouldn't look at those others as BETTER PEOPLE than me?? Gimme a break. Fact is...I could have gladly afforded ten bucks, but not fifty. Especially when I'm not guaranteed that anything that I like, and could use...would come of it.
Why is it selfish to demand and expect that...for any amount I might give...that I at least get something useful to ME out of that money?
That is why I'm having a problem with this.
What I am suggesting...for future competitions...that the total amount of the prize fund may be posted...but not the individuals amounts. That way, no one feels pressured into giving more than they could afford.
What you'd say is...ok, we have a prize fund of say, $200...and the following people contributed to that pool (without revealing how much each person contributed) For example...
Prize Fund
200
1st Prize $100
2nd Prize $50
2 3rd place prizes of $25
The following people contributed to the fund:
Joe Blow, John Doe, Richard Roe, Jane Secretary, Joe Sixpack.
THAT way...no one feels intimidated into offering more than they could afford...no one person looks better than another...and no one feels like their small contribution would be laughed at, or that they would thus look like a cheap-ass. You might even thus get more people to contribute small amounts, and thus have a bigger prize pool.
I'm just sayin'....
Can you NOW see where I am coming from...and what I was trying to suggest?
I was not suggesting people who contributed not be acknowledged...but...just as an example, my church, when they have their annual pledge drive...names those who pledged...BUT NOT THE AMOUNTS EACH PERSON PLEDGED...therefore, no one looks "better" than someone else...and no one who can only afford something small...feels intimidated - or pressured into offering more than they could afford.
Does this point hold valid for you?
Does my argument hold no water?
I'm just trying to suggest a better way to go about presenting this sort of thing in the future...is that such a bad thing?